Case in point: My son has a friend who is Lubavitch and very intelligent. Because he hadn't studied English, math & science in school (he went to an Aguda type yeshiva day school), nor did he learn the Hebrew language - he failed three exams needed to enlist in the IDF (it's a long story). He realized then that he was ill-prepared to function in today's world, and promptly (after proving himself and excelling in Tzahal) started studying the courses he needed in order to bring him up to speed (high school level; we're not even talking about college!)
He went on to get his BA in Jewish Studies in college.
You should hear what he has to say about the yeshiva world. And I am happy to say, he didn't 'throw out the baby with the bathwater' - he returned to being Lubavitch, is married w/ 2 kids, and has started several businesses. And he is still studying - now, towards his LSATs!
The Rambam was a secular as well as a Torah scholar, as were other sages in Jewish history. Nachmanides (the RamBaN) studied medicine and philosophy. There is no need to abandon a Torah life; there is just a need to expand upon it and learn what is necessary to succeed in the world at large. Doesn't it say in Pirkei Avot, "ezehu chakham ha-lomed mi-kol adam" ? It is also written, "ein Torah bli Derekh Eretz..."(derekh eretz= a livlihood, among other meanings).
Another point is that somewhere in all this, the laws of 'mitzvot bein adam le-havero ' seem to have gotten lost in the shuffle. Some people are so concerned with outward appearances, that a dishonest, cheating thief - such as the kosher supervisor who was indicted for labeling and importing treif meat as kosher (see JCop's blog) - is (before being discovered) viewed as frum and respected.
But a Jew trying to be a good ben-Torah by living "ve-ahavta le-rayakha kamokha" in addition to keeping the laws bein adam l'Hashem (Shabbat, kashrut, etc.) is looked upon with disdain because he wears colored shirts, is in grad school and reads newspapers.
So, UnOrthodoxYeshivaGuy, keep writing of your experiences, and keep the dialogue going. This is the correct forum - among others - to do so.
p.s. - I think colored shirts are fun! What would the yeshiva world say about my son's kippah sruga?